When do you cut your losses?

Imagine that you’ve been waiting for the bus for 30 minutes to get to your destination. As this is an irregular bus service, you’re unsure when the bus will arrive. You could call a cab, but by the time it arrives, there is a high chance that the bus would have arrived. Alternatively, you could cut your losses now, walk to your destination, and get there in 15 minutes.

Heres’ the conundrum: if you leave the bus stop and start walking, you might risk missing the bus. Imagine the bus driving past you as you start walking to your destination? How pissed would you be seeing the back of the bus, realizing that the 30 minutes you spent waiting for the bus was all for nothing?

Alternatively, you could keep waiting, possibly for another 30 minutes. The bus would show up eventually, but you’ll have to keep waiting. You could have been at your destination by now, but you were so invested and attached to waiting for the bus you didn’t want to get up and walk.

You’re stuck between a rock and a hard place.

The same conundrum applies to our everyday lives. Business, school, friendships, women, relationships, life. When do you fold your cards and leave? Our time is limited, it is the only finite resource that we have. Once it’s gone, it’s gone, you can’t get it back.

As a young man, I was very attached to whatever I invested in. Be it a project, a friendship, or a woman. I took so much pride in what I had built that I didn’t want to see it disappear. I wanted to salvage and repair rather than start afresh. I thought that I could bend destiny to my will. What a foolish endeavour.

Gentleman, your time is the most valuable resource you can have. In all of your pursuits, ask yourself “Is this the best use of my time?”. Going back to the bus analogy, you’ve invested 30 minutes of your time into waiting for the bus. If you got up and walked to your destination, you might run the risk of missing a bus that could potentially have arrived within the next 5 minutes, but you’ll definitely not be wasting another 30 minutes waiting for the bus that might or might not show up.

The same concept applies to women. Some women will be more receptive to you than others. Some women will be all over you initially but suddenly ghost on you. Some women are so damaged, they’ve lost the ability to pair bond. Some women were never right for you from the outset. As much as it feels like a waste of time abandoning a prospect, that may or may not give you a good return on investment when you leave, it’s better this way. Instead of being bound to the bus stop waiting for the irregular bus service to take it’s time to arrive, you’re free to walk to your next destination. Likewise, by spending so much time on one woman, be it a new girl, or an old plate, you’ve given up your freedom to walk up to another woman.

Sometimes it’s best to cut your losses and leave, regardless of how much time you’ve already invested. Otherwise you risk wasting even more time. Would you rather wait for the irregular bus service or walk?


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