The purpose of a phone number

Getting phone numbers is easy. If the girl is reasonably attracted to you, all you need to do is hand your phone over with the call menu on your screen. You don’t have to say another word.

Unless the both of you have the time to go out then and there on a date (The isntantdate), the number is the platform that facilitates enough communication between the two of you before the next date. Many men mistake the phone number as a tool for building attraction. In this post, I clarify the exact purpose of getting a girl’s phone number.


As mentioned above, the phone number isn’t an attraction building tool. If you’ve managed to weasel your way into getting a girl’s phone number like I did here, don’t be surprised when the girl rebuffs your advances.

If a girl likes you, she’ll give you her phone number without you needing to try too hard. If she doesn’t like you, she’ll come up with 12412104202 excuses not to give out her phone number.

“My boyfriend won’t like that”

“I don’t know you well enough”

“You can add me on Facebook instead”

“I deleted my Instant messaging apps in preparation for my exams”

This is why I almost always ask for a girl’s phone number in person and make my intentions very clear. Thus, for the reasons outlined above, you should not go about getting a girl’s phone number in the ways outlined in this post.

The second thing you need to understand is that you should not be texting her 24/7. By being so timely (and possibly detailed) in your responses, you are indirectly telling her that you don’t have anything better to do in the day; she is your main and sole focus. This kills the attraction she initially had for you for two reasons. First, women are hypergamous, a woman wants to upgrade–she wants to be with a man who’s higher value than her. Second, by telling her your life story (with accompanying photos of your lunch and dinner), you’ve killed the air of mystery around you. Save the chit chat for your eventual face to face interaction. If you can’t fuck her on the first date, you’ll be seeing her more often, so don’t worry about depriving her of attention. Women love to text, by texting her constantly, you risk being relegated to her text buddy. Your choice, you can either be a text buddy or fuck buddy.


Now that you know what NOT to do with a girl’s phone number, I’ll go into what you MUST DO with a girl’s phone number.

It’s simple really. Your phone number/ adding her on Wechat/ Whatsapp serves 2 purposes. First, your profile photo reminds her of how good looking you are. Second, it allows you to instantaneously send messages to her. In light of this, you should only be messaging her to find a mutually convenient time and date to meet up.


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