Chinese women are not very extroverted and seldom initiate contact with someone they don’t already know (There are exceptions of course). That being said, Chinese women can be extremely outgoing within their social circle.
This can be a problem if you’re attempting to set up a date with her, let alone fuck her. The socialite usually has an inflated sense of self worth and value because of her position within her social circle’s social hierarchy. She will have a bunch of beta orbiters pandering to her every whim and desire. She will have men approach her at clubs offering to buy her drinks. Very often, the women in her group will defer to her as the pack leader and ‘elder sister’.
While the socialite can be promiscuous and an easy lay, they are often much more trouble than they’re worth.
1. HOW TO SPOT THE SOCIALITE
The socialite is almost always never alone. Chances are she was with several friends when you approached her and took her number. While this may be true for most Chinese girls, you can verify this by looking at her Wechat photos (朋友圈). If she has 12320532905329532 photos with numerous different people, you can bet your ass you’ve just fished a socialite.
While these are good indicators, the best indicator is if her week is often fully booked. I.e she has made back to back plans.
A year ago, I met this socialite and Wechat closed her. She told me that she would be travelling the following week and would only be back on the 10th of December (i.e in 2 weeks). I proposed several possible dates to her to meet up and ended up meeting her the next day because she made plans to meet up with various friends throughout the week.
I then ask her if she was afraid of heights (to get her excited about our date), to which she responded by asking if we were going to go bungee jumping.
(women and their imaginations). I tell her that we weren’t going to go bungee jumping and that she would have to wait till tomorrow (We went to a rooftop bar I have on lock).
I then met up with her the next day, venue changed several times before we went back to my place, played drinking games and made out. I attempted to escalate several times but got 1 hour of last minute resistance instead. In the end, she left because her roommate was feeling lonely.
2. HOW TO DEAL WITH THE SOCIALITE
The first hurdle with the socialite is convincing her that you are worth her time. I.e making her realize that you yourself are someone of high value. There are several ways to do this. You could be very good looking and muscular. Or alternatively, you can leverage your pengyouquangame™.
Once this hurdle has been surmounted, you have to ensure that you plan something exciting, something she’s seldom, or rarely done before. Something her beta orbiters or girlfriends have never taken her. My go to favourite is drinks at a rooftop bar or canoeing. Hiking, go carting, or a walk in the park are all good alternatives. Be creative.
While I don’t recommend being too cocky on a date most Chinese girls, you will quickly be relegated to the friend zone and sentenced to a lifetime of beta orbiting in her social circle if you fail to tease her/ break the touch barrier. Be bold. Treat her like you would a western girl, but don’t go overboard. Remember, these girls are little princesses in their social circle, you don’t want to follow the precedent that she’s used to. More importantly, don’t forget to be exhibiting value; you want her to focus her attention on you, not the other way round. This means dressing well (I almost always go suited down), showing her photos of your interesting hobbies/ travels, telling her interesting stories, and just overall being an interesting and charming guy.
3. CLOSING NOTES
The socialite is hit or miss. You either nail her or you don’t. If your attempts to fuck her on the first date fail, you rarely will get a second chance unless she’s extremely invested in you already. This is because she is a socialite. She is constantly bombarded with wechat messages asking her to go out and be social. By the time you get to scheduling a second date, weeks could have elapsed killing all sexual tension you’ve worked so hard to build up.