I was neither born nor raised in the PRC. In the eyes of any mainlander, I am a foreigner. Notwithstanding this, as someone who has ethnic Chinese roots, I am in a unique position that allows me to offer insights into Chinese culture from both an insider and outsider’s point of view.
Chinese women, as all other women, throw out shit tests to gauge your sexual market value. As annoying as these may be, you’ll have to jump through these hoops to get the reward you want. In this post, I will discuss the various shit tests and how to respond to them.
1. WHY DID YOU COME TO CHINA?
Not necessarily a shit test, more often than not, this is a question that is asked out of curiosity. However, subconsciously, Chinese girls will want to know if you’re there to hunt Chinese girls. Honesty is not the best policy here. Any of the following responses will do.
- I’m interested in buying real estate
- I’m visiting friends
- I’m visiting the country, this is my first time
- I’m here to study Chinese because it is becoming one of the most widely spoken languages in the world. You can use this to number close later by asking the girl to practice with you.
2. HOW LONG WILL YOU STAY IN CHINA?
Chinese girls will almost always ask you this question because they want to gauge if you are a good long term investment. I.e would it be possible for her to “relationship you. As I’ve mentioned here, this is because Chinese guys with no game often “girlfriend” girls from their social circle and inadvertently setting this unfortunate precedent. Regardless of whether you’re staying for a short or long time, I don’t see the utility in lying. As an aside, from experience, letting girls know that you’ll be leaving soon instills a sense of urgency in them by making them realize that you won’t be there forever (they subconsciously know this anyway)
3. CHINESE GIRLS ALL LOOK THE SAME, WHY DID YOU PICK ME?
This stems from the girl’s insecurity. She wants you to qualify her. A simple “I think you’re interesting” will do.
4. DO YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND? ARE YOU MARRIED?
She wants to know your dating history. Most of the time, this is asked out of sheer curiosity and not necessarily to trip you up.
5. WHAT IS YOUR PROFESSION?
Chinese girls being K-selected, want a successful man. Teaching English in China is considered a very low-end profession. Whereas, an entrepreneur, lawyers, or day trader is at the higher rung of the professional ladder.
6. WHERE ARE YOU FROM?
Not necessarily a shit test, rather, a question that is almost always asked. Being Chinese myself, I often segway into how my grandfather was from Canton region but fled the country when the communists took over. While non-chinese guys can do the same, be warned that due to the rampant social conditioning, Indians, African, and Middle Eastern guys don’t do so well. On the other hand, Spanish and Italian men tend to get a good reputation. Don’t ask me why, this is simply the way things are.
7. DO YOU ALWAYS TALK TO GIRLS RANDOMLY?
One of those inherently women questions that pop up from time to time. Agree and amplify, tell her that this is your profession and you have a quota to meet.